Specialist Child Emotional & Behavioural
Psychology Services for Parents
Is my service the right one for you and your child?
Does your child experience depression, or anxiety?
Is your child worried, anxious or upset more than you had expected, or more than you think is normal?
Is your child so scared of something that this impacts on their involvement in family/peer/school activities?
Is your child a fussy eater?
Do you worry about your child's behaviour - do they not always listen and follow your instructions?
Does your child find it hard to focus on one task for any length of time, and does this worry you?
Is your child experiencing bullying?
Is your child sometimes reluctant to go to school?
Is your child finding a recent life-transition very difficult (e.g. house move, school change, bereavement, or separation or divorce)?
Or do you have other concerns, related to your child's emotional or behavioural wellbeing, that are not listed above?
If you have answered 'yes' to any, or several, of the above questions:
You are not alone.
I have worked in child psychology services for more than a decade, and have met with hundreds of children experiencing these concerns, and many more not listed above. I can offer you support.
Emotional, behavioural, and developmental conditions I have experience in working with include: Depression, Anxiety (including social anxiety, phobias, etc.), Obsessive compulsive disorder, Eating disorders, Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, Autistic spectrum disorder, etc.
I welcome queries from Mums, Dads, Foster Carers, Adoptive Parents, etc. -
anyone in any personal, caring role for a child.
“…children who can surely be called normal can be shown to have such symptoms, and to have them simply because life is difficult, inherently difficult for every human being, for every one from the very beginning”
How can my psychology services help?
Expressing your concerns is the first step. .
We often understandably attribute feeling stuck with difficult feelings to the emotions themselves.
But this is not the whole story...
Research now tells us that getting 'stuck' actually stems more from us trying to deny or escape our emotions and vulnerabilities - By saying 'I'm fine', when we don't feel fine. Research also now tells us that it is our vulnerabilities that give us strength and direction, to guide us to optimal growth and learning in our in lives, and we now know that it is only through our vulnerabilities that we can truly connect to the people who are important to us, and can achieve what we want to achieve in our lives.
So, perhaps counter-intuitively, we now know that your children need to have their emotions and vulnerabilities acknowledged, accepted and embraced, if they are to thrive.
As a parent, the first step to being able to embrace your child's emotions and vulnerabilities is being able to embrace your own. This initial step is often understandably very hard for current generation parents, who have often been raised themselves to hide their emotions, to "keep calm, and carry on", or who have been raised to believe the myth that vulnerability is a weakness.
I use evidence-based psychological techniques to support you and your child to face and embrace your emotions and vulnerabilities. I aim to support you to embrace your emotions, vulnerabilities, and uniqueness, and to empower you to work towards your child's best life.
What can you and your child gain from working with me?
You can both first and foremost gain a sense of feeling emotionally supported, which is a very powerful change agent in itself.
You can both develop your emotional awareness, and simultaneously gain an understanding that your emotions are okay, and that they are understandable, and normal. This in itself will powerfully increase your capacity for responding effectively to your child's emotions.
You and I can work as 'co-therapists' for your child - you can learn to further your understanding of your child's emotional world, and you can learn techniques to support your children emotionally with whatever they are experiencing.
I can support you to learn communication and collaboration skills, so that more effective parenting co-parenting becomes possible.
I can also support you to develop emotional resilience, and to develop the emotional resilience of your child.
And with this, you will also learn to further develop your child's inherent courage, cognitive flexibility, self-reflexivity, and empathy. These are key skills that will absolutely support them to reach their highest potential throughout their life.
And importantly, you can learn how to hear, and trust, your inner voice of parenting intuition, which can then guide you in each and every decision you make as a parent. Parenting is uncertain - it is a totally unique experience for every parent and child. There is no 'one size fits all' approach for parenting, particularly in the context of child emotional or behavioural difficulties. Connecting with me has the potential to unlock your infinite, innate, instinctive and intuitive parenting resources, from within you. Your intuition is your key to effective parenting, and the key to your intuition is your emotional awareness and resilience, which you can have the opportunity to develop further through working with me.
How does it work?
You will meet with me, in a private therapy consulting room in central Tunbridge Wells. And we will talk. I can offer support to one parent alone, individually, or I can work with couples and/or groups of parents (e.g. step-parents, extended family, etc.). Sessions can be focussed on the evidence-based 'The Daring Way™' programme, which I highly recommend, or they can encompass a more tailored, integrative approach.